HELP ME SAVE MY NEPHEW ... PLEASE!

[regal]

I have notarized papers that state I have custody of my nephew. His mother is a heavy drug user as are the rest of my family. My family is now trying to get me to return the child to his mother or grandmother (both of whom are homeless cocaine users). The child has made amazing progress in my care over the last two years and I have no desire to return him to that situation. I have not heard from his mother (in over a year). My family collects well fare on the child, they have for the last two years, I have never asked for a penny from any of them for him, if he is returned to that situation I am afraid for his safety and well fare. If returned he (as most children I grew up around) will likely end up in foster care. What do I do? As the mother has not contacted me should I ignore my family? I want him to be safe.

[Gbyte]

Yes. Ignore your family if the mother has not contacted you. I wouldn't even answer them. Change the subject.

But...notarized papers really mean nothing. You may want to get a lawyer and file for guardianship. The mother (or father - who is missing from your post) really can come back anytime and attempt to reclaim custody. If you have guardianship - it may put up just a little higher of a hurdle they would have to clear.

Do they think by returning the child she may straighten up? I have a hard time understanding why your family would want a young boy (grandson, nephew, cousin) to be living "with" a homeless drug user....

Lawyer consults are usually free....I'd recommend you get one and figure out the best way to proceed.