Girlfriend might be pregnant, she's threatening to move and hit me with child support

like the title said, A girl i have been dateing only a few months is now claiming shes pregnant. she told me this on a night we were breaking up. She has basically gotten me to stay with her so she can get an abortion. But she has now started saying how she cant keep liing here she has no friends, no job, no nothing and wants to move to arizona and have the kid and call a lawyer to get me to pay her child support.

I dunno if she is actually pregnant... but if she is im wondering how i can protect myself.
I'm 25, im a mechanic, i had to move back into my parents hosue since finishing college due to economy problems and whatnot.

I already have a 6year old from a high school relationship in which me and that motehr are very good friends and hang out together a lot still. In fact there may be a chance we'll get back together sumday.. but im worried about this whole new situation.

Anyone have any good advice or knowladge on what i can do to cover myself?

Yes, first, wear a rubber and stop producing children you cannot help provide for.

Secondly, she has the right to have the child if she wants. Is it yours or not? Only a paternity test will prove otherwise. If you do not think it is yours, then contest it from the get go, do not let her put you as the father on the birth cert. If it becomes an issue, find out G-bytes real name and put it on the birth certificate.

Lastly, this has a chance to get ugly fast. So if you can get a lawyer, as soon as it becomes an issue.

[BByte]

Well she cant just go to a lawyer and make you pay child support. First you must be proven the legal father of the child through DNA/Court order. Then Child support will be established. BTW, if you give her any money before the child support order, it will be considered a "gift" not as a credit to what you owe. You will get to argue your case for custody or visitation.

Now the most important reason you need a lawyer. They will be able to tell you if AZ has any laws surrounding pre birth claims, as technically she can leave the state or have an abortion without your consent. An attorney will help you with that. Find a way to talk to one financially, your case can get complicated.

Originally Posted by Unregistered Yes, first, wear a rubber and stop producing children you cannot help provide for. Secondly, she has the right to have the child if she wants. Is it yours or not? Only a paternity test will prove otherwise. If you do not think it is yours, then contest it from the get go, do not let her put you as the father on the birth cert. If it becomes an issue, find out G-bytes real name and put it on the birth certificate. Lastly, this has a chance to get ugly fast. So if you can get a lawyer, as soon as it becomes an issue.

yes, i know that looks bad... but my 6yr old is provided for very well, we are very loving parents and he is super healthy and fun loving.

I wouldnt mind another kid, i really wouldnt... jsut the way things have been going with this girl have not been good. She isnt exactly mentally healthy, Ive known her for years but never knew the full extent of it. She was in fostor homes cause her parents basically hated her and they cant get along for more then a week. She went to psych wards and used to take meds.
I dated her thinking how fun she is, and then i thought about helping her out (and myself get out of my parents house) by moving in with her.
But she started getting really needy and whiny and jealous. We had fights and i decided no to live with her... that set her off.
Then the arguement that started this pregnancy thing was on a friends birthday. I had short notice to know about when the party was and she got pissed that she had to go hang with my friends on 'our night' and threw a fit and wouldnt leave my car at the pub.

She basically exploded at me at a birthday party... that was the last straw and i made a friend drive her in my car (since she WOULD NOT get out of my car) to get her stuff from my house. she then wasnt gonna leave till i talked to her, thats when she sprung it on me.

this might be tmi... but i need unbiased advice


she also screams at me when i do anything with my son and sons mother.

Hey bro, I was just being honest and critical, but not offensive. It is good that you are a great father to your 6 yr old, and I applaud you for being a man there.

As far as this goes like BB said. First paternity has to be established before a child support order is made. Are there any doubts this is not your kid?

[BByte]

How far along is she?

Can't stress this enough, do not let her talk you into any support without paternity established and court order, sounds like it may be a shakedown to me, and you owe her nothing right now.

I dont know if she cheated on me... she mentioned not getting laid for a long time before dateing me. she says she around 2 months along... but shes been on the pill for years too.

I didnt take offense about that remark, i just relized i left out details

Hey man, we have all said things to get what we want at some point or other, whether it was completely true.

BB got a good point, DO NOT agree to anything until paternity is established. It is harder to undo, take it from someone who was been duped before

Oh and i forgot to add, I live in Massachusetts (Im the Original Poster).

I dunno what are the state specific laws that would bone me... or for that matter if she moved to Arizona.... and tried to hit me from there with court stuff, what would happen?
Which state would take precedence? and would I have to relocate myself to go to court things or would she?