Residental parent

[mikei]

need help,, I am the residental parent. I did live in OH, now i live in michigan with my new husband. I have a son and have shared parenting. His father pays support. question: Now that i live in michigan can my son attend school here? The county where i did live and where i do live now touch each other. Can his father stop me from doing this?

Unless your order says otherwise (or required advance permission) you are free to use the public school where you now reside...in fact you have to normally.

[mikei]

Currently he attends private school in toledo, M - T - W are my days and T- F and every other weekend are his dads,., i'm not trying to change the agreement,, just his schooling ,,, still think it's OK?

[Gbyte]

If it says the parties must agree on schooling...then you must agree or go to court to have it changed.

[mikei]

The agreement states the child attends school in the school district of the mother, but i lived in Ohio then,, I just wanted to make sure he couldn't stop me somehow.

[Gbyte]

Were you "allowed" to move - by the agreement or the courts? Does it say the parties have to agree as to whether it is public or private schooling?

If you moved without violating the order - and you don't have to agree on anything in regards to schooling, you should be good to enroll the child where you live.

[mikei]

OK next question,
How hard would it be to change the agreement between the father and myself.
What legal rights do I have to do this.. i.e. The shared parenting plan we have is M-T-F-Sa-Su with myself,,, W-Th and every other weekend with his father,, The plan in my opinion doesn't give my son a stable place to call his home,,, He is always going to his moms or his dads and never going home. I would like to have him call a place home. I know it doesn't matter now but his father was lousy for more than half his life and never wanted anything to do with him, now he tells him how mommy and daddy should be together to be a family. and makes me out to be the bad guy so to speak. NE ways,,, Because I moved to Michigan which is only 28 miles from where i did live, can I change the agreement to 1 night a week for a few hours and every other weekend. Or am I stuck with what I got. He dad will fight me on this. Was wondering what my chances were? Thank you for your help.

[Gbyte]

Your chances are slim to none. You made an agreement that your child doesn't get "a home" - you are likely stuck with it unless your child requests a change around the age of 12.

It's sad. I saw my nieces go through this - "are we sleeping at your house or mommies house?" I said at the time how sad it was that they don't have their own home. With these types of split custody agreements that many parents choose and beleive to be good alternatives to staying together - the children do often end up choosing ONE home to live at when they get older.