How can I keep my verbally abusive ex from our son???

My ex is verbally abusive, an alcoholic, cocaine user, etc etc. Anyways, same old stuff...I'm a selfish ***** and worse things that I'm too embarrassed to repeat. He told he that if I didn't let him come see our son or if I ignore him he would "log" it and use it in court to get visitation and make me look bad. I don't argue with him, just repeatedly tell him to leave me alone or just ignore him. I'm a GOOD mother. I spend every minute of my day with my kids. I'm trying to PROTECT my children...he says that I'm hurting our son but my 9 year old (who's father passed 7 years ago) is scared to DEATH of him. And our son doesn't even recognize him. He came on my property when I was on vacation and left the kids presents....he always does after he hasn't been around forever...and he also rifled in my car and mailbox. When I called him to tell him to stay off my property the harassment and threats started all over again. He has no legal rights to his 17 year old daughter with his ex wife for the same reasons and there are NO visitation orders for our son. He only came around for visitation w/ our son before to try to get back with me. When I told him no, he threatened suicide, lost his job and became verbally abusive again. I had to change my phone numbers and block him from my emails, myspace, and facebook accounts AGAIN. Yes this is the second time in less than 6 months. He was just coming around to try to see me and when that didnt work he stopped and went nuts again. I don't know what I should do. I can't afford an attorney right now....and I just feel hopeless about this. Please someone help me and tell me what I can do to protect myself and my children. Can he really get visitation after all of this? I have everything he has said to me in texts and emails. It's all saved. Please help!

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Yes. He probably can...

Find a supervised visitation service in your area and fill out the forms that need filled out BEFORE a court orders it. You can usually find these by contacting a battered womens shelter.

If you think a drug test will be positive and he's filed info with the courts to start custody/visitation, get an attorny and order one QUICKLY.

Thanks. I contacted our local battered women's shelter this morning and the police are also involved now. BUT NOW, he has told me that he is going to have a person who used to be a friend of mine (now his girlfriend) to tell the judge that I am the cocaine user and that I told alot of people that out son is his new girlfriend's ex's baby. I know that sounds crazy! I'm not worried about either, drug and DNA tests can prove otherwise. I don't use ANY drugs period and a DNA test surely won't show anything different than what we already know, but what I want to know is; can they REALLY make things up like that just out of spite and have the judge actually listen to that??

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Judges WILL beleive crazy things. Sometimes it comes down to who has the best story. Fortunately, if as you said tests will prove you clean and prove him to be the father - your proof will be clear.

Are you going to setup supervised visits?

I just got off of the phone with the Women's Center and there is no such service in my area. Unfortunately. The police just left my house and they have instructed me to file for a domestic protective order and take out a warrant for cyber-stalking. I'm heading to the courthouse now. Hopefully since he hasn't filed anything with the court yet for visitation or custody this will help in my favor when he does. Luckily I logged every correspondence between him and I for the last 10 months. Thanks