Unwed Father's Rights - Georgia

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Originally Posted by MsSassyPooh Not to knock any dads, but not too many boys (as I still call my son, yes I know he is an adult) stand up and do the right thing when it comes to new babies.

You'd be surprised. It is more common than not. Unfortunately our family courts actively work to separate unwed fathers from their children, and discourage them from taking an active part in their lives. So, for the (majority) of men who do want to raise their children, it ends up being an never-ending uphill battle. Your son is going to need a lot of emotional support from you.

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This child is a week old. A WEEK! Just keep trying. NICELY! Try talking to her and asking when the evening feeding is. Say - we'd like to stop over then (for 30 minutes). She's been through a LOT in the last 9 months+1 week. Cut her a teeny bit of slack. Yes, you will likely need the courts invovled at some point. Yes...she will maintain complete control of a newborn and there is nothing the courts will do to change that. Let her recover at least a little bit physically.

Find your counties standard custody schedule. See if it addresses infants. I think most are 2hrs 2-3 times a week. Take it to her. Ask to at least follow this schedule for the time being. If your counties doesn't...find one that does.

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Ok, I am tired of being nice. ( I know the baby is almost 2 weeks old now, but enough is enough). Tonight the mom tells my son he is bad in her eyes and he will not see his daughter without her. I dont get her way of thinking but instead of better she is getting worse. She says she may stop by tomorrow so he can see his daughter but she "may" have someone with her. Ok, sounds like mind games to me and his daughter does not deserve this from someone who claims to love her.
So, tomorrow we shall start getting everything in order for him to start whatever it is he needs to do. This is not fair to him and she will not stop his relationship with his daughter regardless what she thinks of him. (For whatever reason she has, now he is not good enough for father material.) She should have thought about that before having a baby with him. He has a right to be there for his daughter. And he will not walk away no matter how hard she tries to push.

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I understand you are frustrated, but many court orders do require the mom to be present during the dad's visitation time of an infant in the mothers home. 2hrs 1-2 maybe 3 times a week for the first month or two. She can have someone present and you can be there as well. A local attorney should be able to assist you in understanding what the newborn schedule might look like in your county. He is not likely going to get the rights to take the child from the home unless supervised if he doesn't agree to see the child when she is present.

To me...it sounds like she agreed to visitation and now you say you've had enough and are tired of being nice. So...if you're being nice, have you dropped off anything to her? For her or the baby? REALLY think about if this was your daughter. Two weeks is NOT long enough for the hormones to go to normal or to physically OR mentally recover from child birth. Wow.

gbtye, YOUR OFF YOUR ROCKER. Dont bring her anything but papers to go to court. He is the father he has rights. I bet she wont be saying no when he has to hand over a check every week though. This poor kid is doing everything he can to be a good father and take care of his newborn and she is being a loser. And all men are not like that. All the good guys who do what is right get the shaft in court. and Gbtye, she ricked her life to have a child????? Please. I risk my life every day when I walk out into the world. You talk like its the 1600's. Get a life. She risked nothing. I know she fell down and her legs fell open too right. Thats how she got pregnant right? She is putting her daughter at risk in a home that isnt the best, this biys mom seems to care a great deal about her son and has gone out of her way to show that and so has he. I feel bad for him. He should get full custody of the baby. See how she likes it not being able to see her daughter. And she knows she is only hurting the baby and pissing him off. Typical little girl games. I hope everything works out for him. Good Luck

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Yes, we have been super nice. We have supplied "her" with car seat, clothes for her and baby, place to stay before baby was born, milk for baby (cause she seems to keep missing wic appointments cause she dont wanna go or because baby dont need to get out). We have been promised we could visit the baby but when he shows up shes not there. And we dont live just down the street from her, its about 45 minutes away now. I have tried to treat her as my own daughter and the more we let her call the shots the more she pushes us away. (I will not be used to get what she cant afford to buy or because her family will not help her and her think she can use us because he is the father.)
Yes, I love my son very much and I hate to see him hurt. As any mother would. Yes, he will be responsible for his daughter even if that means paying child support. And now that she will not even allow him to come to her home to visit his daughter something has to give. The line has to be drawn some where.
How much nicer are we supposed to be?????

Not to push too hard?!!! If your son wants any rights or control over what is being done with THEIR child then he better start now. It takes a while to get things done in court and it sounds as though this is where you are headed anyway.I had to take my ex to court when our son was 5 weeks old. Yea it started out we will work things out but it never happened. The more room I gave her the more she took. Its been 16 months and now she has actually "allowing" me one more night every other week then the court order says. And she has done everything in her power to try to lock me up. She has lied and manipulated her way through the courts. But now it has seemed to bite her in the behind. It took until our son was 7 months old to where he would spend nights with me but it was worth all the money and struggles to get there. He is the joy in my life that keeps me going. I wouldn't have done it any other way. Tell your son its in his childs and his best interest to get the legal ball rolling. The sooner the better. You are just wasting precious time with his child.

Back when marriage was taken a little more seriously and people bore children in wedlock, parenting was a two way street. I cannot fathom how anyone, regardless of gender, feels that the father has less of a right or desire to be a parent to their child than the mother. I'm still amazed that many people think having a child is less of a commitment than marriage. After binding yourself to another human being for life by having a child together, marriage should be considered a cakewalk.

Babies are not conceived via immaculate conception.

There is no such thing as "nice" when the mother is being vindictive. Some here seem to be under the delusion that all mothers are worthy of being mothers and have some fierce maternal instinct. That is simply unfounded and untrue. Those people who think that are living in a fantasy made up in their own mind. Many, many men have more of a maternal instinct than some women. Like it or not, that's the real world.

At least this man isn't walking away and wanting no part of his child's life. I give him kudos for wanting to do right by his child. Sucking up to the mother when she's being cruel and vindictive will only make her realize she can behave that way and still get her own way and the vicious cycle will continue.

This child belongs to both parents. Not just one. I sincerely hope this man is able to be a part of his child's life.

I am a mother of 3 but i can see the dads side, dont let this women do this to you i would do somthing now if you wait she is going to have the upper hand. Women can be cruel and vindivete trust me i know, i would never want to keep my kids from there dad. She chose to have a baby with you you both have a bond for life but that does not mean you have to like each other. Tell her to let you see your son or your going to fight for custody, dont keep putting it off she does it now it will continue trust me>good luck best wishes i wish you all the best god bless ps dont go kissing but there is no need.

Originally Posted by Gbyte Now you meet the poster who thinks risking your life for a child is no different than picking one up off the shelf. She should have a damn chance to recover. She should be treated with some respect for bringing a child into this world. I hope you don't listen to this thing (I won't even call it a man). 50/50 custody of a week old infant...you're pathetic. WAR! THAT IS THE PROPER PATH TO 50/50 PARENTING! SHOW HER WHO'S IN CHARGE! HIT HER WHEN SHE'S DOWN! You really make me sick.

upu are a piece of work, god your a hater. DONT LISTEN TO THIS WOMANS ADVICE!!! she has a clear agenda against fathers, because if the roles were reversed this would be an outrage to her!!!!! don't kiss this girls butt, you take that butt to court and get your custody, he has just as much right to that baby as mom.