What can we legally do?

looloo86 · Mar 21st, 2009, 09:39 AM

Ok for those that arent familiar. My husbands ex wife died, so we now have his 3 yr old. Well her parents are taking us to court to try n get full custody. Mind you they have no leg to stand on my husband works @ a prison and im a librarian. Anywho the judge has made us do things against our wishes. i.e. take the toddler to see his mothers dead body, let him stay the whole weekend with his maternal g-parents. We are not going to attempt to keep him from them, but they shouldn't have as much visitation as a parent would have. There are no g-parent rights in TX. Our whole thing about him going over there a lot being a prob is that they let him sleep in his mothers bed, tell him his father and i are bad people and tell him that his mother sleeps with him. When we meet to exchange him they drive his mothers car. So it is obstructing his perception of someone 'dying' and being gone. What can we legally do? Can the judge be ordering us to do all these things against his fathers will? I just feel like were getting screwed.

Gbyte · Mar 21st, 2009, 02:32 PM

Grandparent rights are more readily available when one parent has passed away. I'm afraid you'll likely just have to try to be the stronger person. Be there for the child. If they talk bad about you, explain they are upset and to try and not worry about it. As the child gets older - you can give a little more detail, but be careful. I'm betting your going to have to live with it....

tbyte · Mar 22nd, 2009, 09:39 AM

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Originally Posted by looloo86

Mind you they have no leg to stand on my husband works @ a prison and im a librarian.

I hope you have a stronger legal case than that...

looloo86 · Mar 26th, 2009, 10:48 AM

um yeah i do. being that neither of us has even had a speeding ticket and the 'preachers' kids are all fresh outta prison and he has a child molester @ his house half the time.

looloo86 · Mar 26th, 2009, 10:50 AM

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Originally Posted by Gbyte

Grandparent rights are more readily available when one parent has passed away.

But they shouldnt get as much visitation as a parent would. like every other weeknd... and if thats the case then they can pay child support like my husband had to

tbyte · Mar 28th, 2009, 12:35 AM

Do you have full legal custody of the child right now?
If so, I think you need to push harder in court against these orders. File objections, appeals, etc., so the judge knows he is going to have to defend the legal basis of decisions and that it is going to take up his time and/or possibly embarrass him on appeals.

looloo86 · Apr 2nd, 2009, 04:35 PM

WE WON!!! they dont get every other wknd! they get one wknd a month and a week during summer!!! yay! thank u guys for all ur help/advice!!

Gbyte · Apr 2nd, 2009, 07:59 PM

Glad to hear it!