I'm his mommy

My husband has a now 5yr old son. He and the mother were never married, but his name is on the birth certificate. His mother comes and goes but really seems to be only interested in keeping up with my husband. Out of five years, my stepson has physically been living with us since he was 2yrs old. Right before his 2nd b'day, in the midst of my husband and I planning his birthday party, she moved out of state without a word. About a month later, she contacts us saying he is too much, she cant control him, he's just getting too bad, and no one will watch him so she can work. Now at this time we were living in GA and she had just moved to AR. We all made arragements 2months later to meet in TN so he could stay with us for a while. When the time came, we kept up our end and went to TN. By the time we got there and called her to see where she was, she said just meet her in MS. By MS still no show, and we ended up going all the way to AR. She called everyday, a few times a day, but not once did she ask about her son. When we ignored some of the calls she began threatening kidnapping charges. She then announced she was coming to get him but never showed. We waited a whole weekend and nothing. As time went on we wouldnt hear from her for months and my stepson only knew me as mommy. To tthis day he doesnt know different. I have been the one there through everything. After about a year or so, she finally contacted us again with same threats, but still never came to get him. We have since then moved to FL and she would only choose to talk through MySpace, not phone. She'd leave a number that was always disconnected. MY SON will be 6yrs old this year, and we, my husband and I have five other children, are the only family he knows. She has went on and had another child and never came back for this one. After all these years, her lies, and my heart and family being on the line, does she have a chance in hell of just coming back into his life and taking him from us without us having a say?

[sunlover]

Dad "not you" needs to talk to a Lawyer. Get new court orders and maube even a TPR signed by Mom so you can legally adopt child. Currently you are a "legal stranger" to this child. You might have child reframe from calling you Mom in front of real Mom or her realtives. This could be troublesome later. Remember this is not "your" fights its Dad's. Do not discuss any portion of this with the child

[spinmaster61]

Originally Posted by Unregistered My husband has a now 5yr old son. He and the mother were never married, but his name is on the birth certificate. His mother comes and goes but really seems to be only interested in keeping up with my husband. Out of five years, my stepson has physically been living with us since he was 2yrs old. Right before his 2nd b'day, in the midst of my husband and I planning his birthday party, she moved out of state without a word. About a month later, she contacts us saying he is too much, she cant control him, he's just getting too bad, and no one will watch him so she can work. Now at this time we were living in GA and she had just moved to AR. We all made arragements 2months later to meet in TN so he could stay with us for a while. When the time came, we kept up our end and went to TN. By the time we got there and called her to see where she was, she said just meet her in MS. By MS still no show, and we ended up going all the way to AR. She called everyday, a few times a day, but not once did she ask about her son. When we ignored some of the calls she began threatening kidnapping charges. She then announced she was coming to get him but never showed. We waited a whole weekend and nothing. As time went on we wouldnt hear from her for months and my stepson only knew me as mommy. To tthis day he doesnt know different. I have been the one there through everything. After about a year or so, she finally contacted us again with same threats, but still never came to get him. We have since then moved to FL and she would only choose to talk through MySpace, not phone. She'd leave a number that was always disconnected. MY SON will be 6yrs old this year, and we, my husband and I have five other children, are the only family he knows. She has went on and had another child and never came back for this one. After all these years, her lies, and my heart and family being on the line, does she have a chance in hell of just coming back into his life and taking him from us without us having a say?

Utterly amazing how alot of parents waltz in and out of the childs life! But as long as you stepmom and dad are operating with the chils best intrest at heart, ''You can't go wrong'' The child always sooner or later figures out who is there for them. You do need to get custody through the court to stop the back and forth action for good.And give that child stability once and for all. Any lawyer would be happy to do that as long as child is with you.It don't sound like his ex girlfriend will be much problem in the family court arena.GOOD LUCK. keep the child first.