seperated dad other woman's child

[Denver]

Seperated dad concieves a child with another woman, who is in a relationship of her own. The woman lets current boyfriend believe the child is his, who proceeds to sighn the birth certificate at birth. The woman contacts the now un seperated dad to tell him the child is his. The dad is given time at his home with the child spuratically. Boyfriend is informed the child is not his.
No legal action has been taken either way. The seperated dad wants rights to his child but the woman stopped all contact once informed of his goal.
What can the dad do to get into his childs life? What rights does he have? How can he achieve some sort of custody? What if she is avoids paper work and doesnt show up to hearings?

Please help

[Gbyte]

He needs to file for custody/visitation. It will be dealt with if she doesn't show up. She could dissappear and try to hide, but I'm guessing that's not likely since she did allow the father time.

She may feel her status as custodial parent is now threatened...and she's likely very scared.

Get an attorney. Good luck.

Oh...and get a DNA test, just to be sure. It'd my understanding a "home" DNA test (not likely admissible in court) that would assure HIM at least can be had for around $100.00 if he gets to see the child again.

[spinmaster61]

Originally Posted by Denver Seperated dad concieves a child with another woman, who is in a relationship of her own. The woman lets current boyfriend believe the child is his, who proceeds to sighn the birth certificate at birth. The woman contacts the now un seperated dad to tell him the child is his. The dad is given time at his home with the child spuratically. Boyfriend is informed the child is not his. No legal action has been taken either way. The seperated dad wants rights to his child but the woman stopped all contact once informed of his goal. What can the dad do to get into his childs life? What rights does he have? How can he achieve some sort of custody? What if she is avoids paper work and doesnt show up to hearings? Please help

It would be to his benifit for him to become the custodial parent . It sounds like mom has been a naughty girl and a we bit deceptional.I could say thats what those little things do!But i wont. Soon she will more than likely go after dad for child support. It sounds like the type. Ido try real hard not to stereo wemen. There is a track record to go by tho.It used to be called family court preferintial treatment for wemen.But then again if men dont go after custody. It is an easy win for the woman.So i guess you cann't blame women for taking advantage.Under those circumstances.Any way good luck.

WOW, what a one-sided opinion!!! Not all women are evil or bad mothers. There could possibly be a chance that she is a good mom who feels threatened now. Maybe she was trying to make good when she told dad the truth-give her credit, she did eventually tell the truth. It may not be the best way to do it and she made poor choices, but she did come clean. I would have to say that it should depend on the age of the child as to whether or not he pursues custody. If that child is a few years old and only has known mom, taking custody if she's a good mom would be horrible. He is entitled to visitation and working up to joint custody perhaps. There are options other than just going for full custody and assuming she is horrible. The child needs to be thought of first!

Also, it would probably depend on what the dad on the birth certificate says with this. If he is willing to stay in the picture and still parent knowing the child is not his, it could be hard to get a court to look at the case. Not just anybody can jump in and say that they want a case started. If he signed the birth certificate and stays involved, it could be your word against theirs. It really depends on what is going on with that guy and where you are at. Also, the time period is important, too (how old is the child/ how much time has passed since birth).

Good luck!

Also on that note, if you are not on any paperwork and the time frame is still open to do so, you would have to get established as the father before anything could be done. Call an attorney and see what to do; they could be very helpful.

[spinmaster61]

Originally Posted by Unregistered WOW, what a one-sided opinion!!! Not all women are evil or bad mothers. There could possibly be a chance that she is a good mom who feels threatened now. Maybe she was trying to make good when she told dad the truth-give her credit, she did eventually tell the truth. It may not be the best way to do it and she made poor choices, but she did come clean. I would have to say that it should depend on the age of the child as to whether or not he pursues custody. If that child is a few years old and only has known mom, taking custody if she's a good mom would be horrible. He is entitled to visitation and working up to joint custody perhaps. There are options other than just going for full custody and assuming she is horrible. The child needs to be thought of first! Good luck!

It is allways in the best intrest of the child.As far as divorced or seperated parents i can see how opinions could erupt. I dont understand your statement about him taking custody if she is a good mom. Would be horrible.

[Gbyte]

He's been "naughty" too. Should have kept it in his pants. It takes two.

She may have truely been unsure...but then may have seen it in the child as the child aged. She may have thought she was protecting the real father - who may have pressured her for an abortion. We don't know what motivated her to do what she did.

Originally Posted by Gbyte He needs to file for custody/visitation. It will be dealt with if she doesn't show up. She could dissappear and try to hide, but I'm guessing that's not likely since she did allow the father time. She may feel her status as custodial parent is now threatened...and she's likely very scared. Get an attorney. Good luck. Oh...and get a DNA test, just to be sure. It'd my understanding a "home" DNA test (not likely admissible in court) that would assure HIM at least can be had for around $100.00 if he gets to see the child again.

Always get a DNA speculation don't hold up in court.She dont sound very trustworthy.......

[Denver]

Can the dad file for a dna test without the now 8 month child address? Does he have to have a lawyer to do all of this? If the child is in a unstable living condition after dna is proven, how fast can he file for custody? By unstable ' m.o.', but does live with boyfriends aunts house.

You would have to talk to a lawyer for sure. If the child is now 8 months old, it could take a bit to prove this and go through this process. If mom lives with someone else, it doesn't make her a bad mom or an unstable home as long as that home is safe. You would have to prove something else as far as unstable.