Need Help!!!! 12/30/08

My children go to their father's house every weekend. the children are 1 & 3 year olds. I pick them up on Sunday night. from the time we arrive home Sunday they sleep till monday around noon time, they do not get right proper sleep they need at the father's house. when they wake up the are very earable start cussing saying things they do not need be saying for 1 & 3 year old. the 1 year old says more than the 3 year old ( I say it sad when a father & girlfriend teaches them to say things that is not proability like talking about the mother that has the children the whole week and going though hell . than they go to the father's house (the ball game started) she loves her children she just needs some advice and suggestions how to deal with situation.
therefore the father has not payed child support not one time

[Gbyte]

My ex not only taught my daughter the f-word, he also taught her to moon and flash passing cars. She goes to "bed" with the TV on (which makes it impossible for her to sleep - she comes home crying because she's so tired), he refuses to read to her, Lets her watch R rated and PG-13 rated movies with him (ie Will Smith - "I am Legend" amongst many others) showers her two times a day (washing even her privates up until she turned six and I was able to make a difference there-He still washes her body and bottom and dresses her), leaves her at babysitters during ALL his overnights for months on end, changes her cloths when she arrives as he won't let her wear "my cloths" in his home, doesn't do homework on school nights and sometimes doesn't even feed her dinner, showers her on 4 hour parenting time sessions though she had a bath that morning, strips her naked to make sure she hasn't marked on herself and scrubs her with a washrag until she cries if she did (all over - not just the mark), takes away any possessions from my home when she arrives - as that is "MY" stuff (I thought it was hers), talks bad about her home to his latest girlfriend, talks bad about me to her OR his family/latest girlfriend, has a "don't call mommy rule", his latest wierd thing is to steal all her socks from this home on every visit - he won't send them back - refuses to (some have only been worn once), has her sleep on the foor next to his latest girlfriend of the month (I've lost count in the last two years) and you know what the Guardian ad litem said??

Maybe he should have MORE time.

I could go on...

Basically, it doesn't seem to matter.

Oh...was child support ordered? Is he working? Ask the child support agency to enforce it.

I don't understand when you say he should have more time..
Yes the child support is ordered, it just seems to me that the friend of court don't care anymore.

It a shame that a parent can brain wash child and get away with. They don't relieaze that it hurting the child by been brain washed children carry everything through adult hood (everything is planted just like a seed. )

[spinmaster61]

Maybe a third party. Somone other than you or him to council the child . Preferably a qualified specialist in exactly what the problem is can help with your concerns for the child. Or does everyone involved need counseling? Ido wish you all the luck with it. If the child has success we all win!