parenting time

I have concerns on whether or not I can deny parenting time. A year ago I motioned for supervised visitation for my son's father as he has a history of drug abuse and did at that time I made the decision to do so. Even after the court granted supervised visits he still had problems with drug abuse and I would refuse visits, as did the supervisor to supervise, who is my son's grandmother, his mother. The whole schedule has been up and down since it was enacted. For the past few months I haven't heard from him and now his mother called the other day wanting to know if they can get our son for Christmas. Should I let this occur?

[sunlover]

Why do you want us to make your parenting decisons? If Grandma is supervisor and she feel sits ok then you would be in contempt not to allow said visit

how does parenting time concern the grandmother?? it's parenting time for the child's father. that makes no sense. If the father is not going to be there then why should she allow the child to go.

[sunlover]

There is no mention if Dad is there or not. I presume since Grandma is supervisor Dad will be present

[Gbyte]

Let Grandma have the child for Christmas for goodness sakes. At least half the day.

Well, I am just trying to get outside advice because my son's father will be there, but he has basically been MIA for the last few months and before his mother said she would not supervise the visits because of his lifestyle. He has had many problems with drugs and recently was discharged from the hospital for reasons I don't know. I am reluctant to agree to a visit because of his absence and the absences that have occurred since the order was signed. He has not followed through with the schedule. I don't want to be difficult, but this is not fair to our son that he is in and out of his life.

[sunlover]

You have a court order saying Dad can visit with Grandma supervising! Denial of this visit could be taken as defying court order and could result in contempt charges. Unless you have solid reason for denial this could land you in trouble. The visit as you describe it meets court criteria

So, his absence for the past few months doesn't result in any accountability? I have always followed the order, but this doesn't seem right that he has been in contempt of his visits and now that he reappeared he entitled to have his visits. This is does not seem fair. What could possibly be done in this scenario? I appreciate the feedback.

[sunlover]

Just because he was granted visits does not mean he is in contempt for not using them! You are bound by court order or face contempt charges. You alone cannot take his visit rights away! Unfair or not does not matter. If unhappy with present order seek modification however dont expect anythng even close to no visits or at your discretion

[obeesy]

You keep using past tense on drug use and sound like you're making excuses. Let your son see his father and grandmother...