Please Help Me

[steltervr]

I have a three year old son who will be staying at his father's for the first time, not to mention away from me. I am very concerned about my son and what will happen when I'm not there. He has never stayed with anyone but me. Judge ordered weekend visitation without even being concerned about how my son will handle the situation. What can I do to stop this?

Do you have some reason to believe he won't be safe with the father? What has his visitation been like up to this point? You should let your son develop a good relationship with his father. Spending extended amounts of time with him is very important to that end. Weekend visitations are on every standard visitation plan I've ever seen I think, and he may be able to get more and longer time as the boy gets older if he wants. Why don't you explain your issues with the father, because I'm getting the feeling that you're just being selfish, perhaps I'm wrong.

[tbyte]

Originally Posted by steltervr What can I do to stop this?

Hopefully nothing.
Reconcile yourself to the fact that the father has a right to spend time with his child. The child does not belong solely to you.

[Gbyte]

Deep breath. I know it's scarey...

At three the overnights start. There will likely be ups and downs, transition problems, tantrums, crying...it's not easy. But you gotta do it. Assume all will go well. Assume your child will have the BEST time of his life!

Take some time for yourself, go get a haircut, manicure, whatever. Something just for you.

What if he's an alchoholic and has been recently been picked up on an OWI? Of course I am concerned about my son. My son can sometimes panic and I am concerned if this occurs. I have tried discussing my concerns with the father but he will only do what his attorney thinks is best. How can I get to realize that this is for my son.

Originally Posted by Unregistered What if he's an alchoholic and has been recently been picked up on an OWI? Of course I am concerned about my son. My son can sometimes panic and I am concerned if this occurs. I have tried discussing my concerns with the father but he will only do what his attorney thinks is best. How can I get to realize that this is for my son.

Are you saying your son has actual panic attacks? Like a documented medical or psychological condition? You did not mention any of these concerns in your original post. You made it sound as if you simply did not want to share your son. Do you have an attorney you can speak to about this?

[tbyte]

You can start by not referring to "my son" any more, and using the term "our son" instead.
He is not your property.
Hope he has a good time at his dad's.

[kavi]

HI
Don't afraid. He will be expected situation. and if you are not agree this you can
talk his father and try to understand him. you can make good relationship.
good luck

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[spinmaster61]

Originally Posted by steltervr I have a three year old son who will be staying at his father's for the first time, not to mention away from me. I am very concerned about my son and what will happen when I'm not there. He has never stayed with anyone but me. Judge ordered weekend visitation without even being concerned about how my son will handle the situation. What can I do to stop this?

The judges order was right and proper.However if you feel he will harm your son .consider supervised visitation. There has to be a very good reason . Other than that let the process take its coarse .It is good for child to have both parents.

[hurting2]

i just want to say that some kids wish that they had a father to be around, and with that being a little boy his father is SUPPOSED to be a big part of his life because theirs things u cant teach him that his father can, so just suck it up and move along with the process and enjoy that he has his father in his life.