one child american/one scottish whats his rights after 8yrs

[yummymummy]

can enyone help please, i married an american had one child born in u.s.a left him and came back to scotland 8yrs ago with son without telling him,i then had my other child in scotland he came over to vist after she was born and then came back another twice for visit, that was 7 yrs ago we have had no contact up untill 6months ago, i have let him speak to both kids but he is only intrested in our son has never paid eny support to either child and has now said he is going to file papers in usa court for visitation making me send kids over there.and if i dont give them to him he will ask for full custody children are now nearly 8 and 11yrs old and dont want to go. it was me that got in contact with him after years of trying to find him as he has moved a lot i know he das a police record. he is also saying as i took our son out of the usa without telling him he is going to get me done for kidnapping can he do that even when he has came to vist a few times. will he if he goes through a court get visitation or custody, will he have to pay to go throught the courts.can i do enything in scotland to stop him getting kids we are still married

[tbyte]

Originally Posted by yummymummy can enyone help please, i married an american had one child born in u.s.a left him and came back to scotland 8yrs ago with son without telling him,i then had my other child in scotland

Wow. What a horrible person you are. I can't even imagine being that cruel to another person or to my children.
Honestly, and unfortunately, there is probably nothing he can do about this. But next time you talk to him, wish him the best of luck for me anyway.

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Originally Posted by tbyte Wow. What a horrible person you are. I can't even imagine being that cruel to another person or to my children. Honestly, and unfortunately, there is probably nothing he can do about this. But next time you talk to him, wish him the best of luck for me anyway.

There may have been a reason...awful quick to judge on a paragraph of info.

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I'm guessing we'll never know his side of the story, beyond his coming home from work one day to find his children gone.

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She may have done the right thing for her and her children or maybe the wrong thing.

If he'd just beat the crap out of her for the 6th time, congrats on making it home mom! If he loved her and wanted to be a family and didn't use violence or suffer from any addictions that he couldn't kick, boo for her.

[tbyte]

Yes, I'm sure that was probably but happened.

[yummymummy]

no he never beat the crap out of me but did mentaly.he took nothing to do with our son he took us to a small town to live with no phone to contact my family or friends he sold his truck so he had to use my car for work when he felt like going, he would change jobs to cash in hand so he did:nt need to pay for the child he had from his first marriage he also had no contact with that child from the age of two and he is 19yrs old now. 3mths before i left he told me he never loved me and only married me so i would stay in the u.s.a he would threatin me with immagration as he would not do the papar work for me to get my green card. so it was impossible for me to work and support my son on my own, he also said a few times that if i did try to leave he would get me deported and take our son off me or that my family would find my body at the bottom of a lake. i never onced thought my kids would not see there father and never wanted my kids to not know there father but i think he did leave me no choice when we left he was away for the weekend with his friends me and our son were left at home the way it always was with no money and no way to contact eny one if there was a problem. i think me and my kids have a much much better life here than what we had in the u.s.a.

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And I say good for you. I'm glad your home.

You should go to the ask an attorney section on this site. For a small fee ($10US), you can get legal adivce from attorney's experienced with this kind of issue.

If you do, I do hope you post back the results - or at least a briefing of the results (you're probably not allowed to post the whole thing I'd guess).

Good luck!

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And I say we are hearing one side of the story from someone we know kidnapped a man's child.

There is NO excuse for taking a child away from a parent who wants to be a part of its life. You should both be ashamed.

I stand by my original assessment of the situation. Horrible person.

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Grow up! Oh...I forgot you can't.

All men are NOT model fathers. All women are NOT model mothers. Some kids ARE better off without one of their parents (in rare cases both) - surely not in many circumstances, but based on her description, ya, the kids are likely a LOT better where they are.

She shouldn't be stuck in a foreign country with no friends family or money under the control of this ahole. Could she have even stayed here if divorced?? Not sure how that works.