my son is 15 and now a father!!!!

I live in the state of new york. This is within the county of rensselaer. I was wondering if the other grandmother took me, my husband, and my son to court what would happen. As the mother of a 15 oldfather would i be liable. I figured i would because of his age. The mother of the baby is emancipated the other grandmother said. I heard that the mother of my grandson would have to take me to court. I know this is my grand son in all but i gave my son the sex talk. I have to work. i cant always be around. I told him this could happen as well as various diseases. if iam responsilbe is the court at least gonna make him pay something also. It should be my son paying only. Its not right that both grandparents should have to pay any thing. We didnt make our grandson. He should pay so he can learn from this and be responsible and do the right thing by his son. If he doent want to listen to us his parents and wants to act like a adult then he should be treated like a adult. For this reason i just said can i get him emancipated. He should be considered a adult in the eyes of the law since he wants to act like and be treated like a adult.

why is anyone being taken to court?

[Paladara]

yur son will have no CHOICE but to tke responisibility if the mother wnts to tke him to court but it could be lenghly and time consuming s well as expensive if legal aid or pro bono is not avail....you can spek to mediator as well and ask wht you can do, the only thing grndparents do is have grandparents rights which gives you the right to see your grandson.

[tbyte]

Wow.
Your son is 15, and a father. And at this moment, perhaps the most critical and important point in his life, your primary concern is how to avoid any responsibility for your grandchild.
That says a lot.

Originally Posted by tbyte Wow. Your son is 15, and a father. And at this moment, perhaps the most critical and important point in his life, your primary concern is how to avoid any responsibility for your grandchild. That says a lot.

In a way i feel bad about this and hes going through this but he also needs to learn and listen to his parents. I told him how hard things would be. I am the only one working and have two sons of my own to take care of. My husband is disabled. so iam the provider. Hes been in and out of a home twice. He used to listen to me. Now he really doesnt seem to listen anymore. I love him so much but he needs to learn. Now hes forced to grow up like i had to. I am worried about him. I am concerned about him finishing school. Education is important to me. I had his brother when i was sixteen. I hope that because i had a child so young that he seems that its ok for him too. The idea is to learn from people older than you. I am not saying that i didnt want kids or should of not had them but should have waited till i finished college. I wanted so much for him. I know that its still possilble for anything to happen for him. Anythings possible if you put your mind to it. He does have a great mind. Hes a very intellegent young man i just hope he still stays in school. You made me feel even more horrible about what i said. I should be most concerned about him and what hes going through then anything. I should be more understanding because i also had kids young. Its that no one seems to understand that i am the type of person who always thinks about others and never does for myself. I walk around in ripped up sneakers to and from work. I dont have much nice clothes. I never go anywhere or do anything. My husband is disabled so i feel depressed because i feel like everythings on me and it is. I may sound harsh or selfish but if you really knew me you would think different. People tell me i should start taking care of myself. This is easier said then done because of my two sons,house, bills, food, and now a grandson. There is alot more to this also but ill stop now.

Originally Posted by Unregistered In a way i feel bad about this and hes going through this but he also needs to learn and listen to his parents. I told him how hard things would be. I am the only one working and have two sons of my own to take care of. My husband is disabled. so iam the provider. Hes been in and out of a home twice. He used to listen to me. Now he really doesnt seem to listen anymore. I love him so much but he needs to learn. Now hes forced to grow up like i had to. I am worried about him. I am concerned about him finishing school. Education is important to me. I had his brother when i was sixteen. I hope that because i had a child so young that he seems that its ok for him too. The idea is to learn from people older than you. I am not saying that i didnt want kids or should of not had them but should have waited till i finished college. I wanted so much for him. I know that its still possilble for anything to happen for him. Anythings possible if you put your mind to it. He does have a great mind. Hes a very intellegent young man i just hope he still stays in school. You made me feel even more horrible about what i said. I should be most concerned about him and what hes going through then anything. I should be more understanding because i also had kids young. Its that no one seems to understand that i am the type of person who always thinks about others and never does for myself. I walk around in ripped up sneakers to and from work. I dont have much nice clothes. I never go anywhere or do anything. My husband is disabled so i feel depressed because i feel like everythings on me and it is. I may sound harsh or selfish but if you really knew me you would think different. People tell me i should start taking care of myself. This is easier said then done because of my two sons,house, bills, food, and now a grandson. There is alot more to this also but ill stop now.

The other grandmother also feels that me or her should not have to pay. She said shes been telling my son to let me know what the baby needs and he hasnt been telling me. I told her the other grandmother to let me know if our grandchild needs anything. My son should have let me know. Also she has a big mouth any other time and we both work at the same place then why didnt she tell me at work or better yet so she doesnt tell anyone else all my business call me at home she knows my home number. She comes to work threatening to take me to court (yelling at me) and a asssistant mgr and another employee heard her. I choose to be the mature one and not say nothing back in order to keep my job. Also i choose not to say nothing so she doent take me to court. she told me before numerous times that she would not take me to court because she knows my financial situation and feels that i should not be the one responsible. Its not right that she tells everyone at work whats going on with her daughter and my son. This is my personal business as well. Another thing she doent have the right to come in to the lunch room at work yelling at me about the situation in front of a whole bunch of other associates. She has yelled at me 2 times so far at our place of work. I dont say nothing because this is a place of work and i cant afford to lose my job. Neither one of us can.i really would like to say something back but am going to try and be an adult about it. The one time when she came into the lunchroom yelling at me she said i thought i told you that i was not going to take you to court. She said this yelling. She tells everyone at work that shes going to take me to court but tells me shes not. I should just arrange a court date myself and just get this over but i dont know how am going to do it financially. I wish us all the best. Her daughter doent even want to live with her no more she wants to move in with us. I dought her mother will let that happen. Her mother didnt tell us that her daughter was pregnant till she was six months go figure this one. The grandmother choose the babys name. It didnt seem like her daughter or my son got to make any of the decisions for their own son. There is so much more but i need to stop now. I should stop now because your probably going to be even more harsh on me already.

[Gbyte]

tough situation. I have no clue what the laws are about minors and child support. You could likely just go talk to the local child support agency. If you do, let us know what they say.

why don't you and the other grandmother split the cost of the baby until your son and the mother turn 16 and then tell them to go get a job