need advice

[jrw1818]

ok so my girl an i got into a fight last friday an now its tuesday. i havent seen or heard from her since. she called a friend of mine who's family of her's. she told him she's getting a retraining order on me. how if we have a kid??? she told him she cant call me, cause she has that on me. but i havent got served yet... she wants full custody an doesnt want my family to see the kid.. can she do that??? i make way more money then her an she just cant control the kid either physically an financially too..
so when i go to the retraining order thing what should i NOT do... i wanna go over there an say i want my kid but from what i hear i have no rights...true right? an i only want joint custody but should i go for full since she is... or will it make me look better cause i want joint???

i know lots of questions but im stressing an need answers thanks

If you weren't married, you have no rights currently. You need to retain an attorney and file for rights. With a restraining order - if it remains in place, there are services where the exchange can be made without having to see each other or violating it.

Do you guys agree on how to raise the child? Do you see eye to eye (or close) on discipline, medical, school, religion? You will have to be willing to work WITH her and her with you.

How old is the child? What state? Those are critical questions. An attorney should be your first stop now.

[jrw1818]

i live in washington. an we werent married... so basically i cant go in try to get the kid if she leaves the kid with her grandma???

what should i NOT do in this pasition??? like i shouldnt go over there? when i go to court for the restraining order i shouldnt say the bad things about her??

First of all why do you keep refering to your child as "the kid?" Secondly, it doesn't matter how much money you make...you're not going to get full custody just because of that. you making more money is only going to benefit her and your child because of child support. When your child was born, was paternity established? Is your name on the birth certificate, because if not you're going to have to prove paternity before you can even file for custody.

it would be stupid to bad mouth her to a judge. i went through that before and it's not going to get you anywhere. just be civil

[Me. Penn Curotte]

Originally Posted by Unregistered it would be stupid to bad mouth her to a judge. i went through that before and it's not going to get you anywhere. just be civil

you should not try and list every feble thing about the mother of your child as it WILL hinder your case second money is not a factor in custidy cases as custody is established to the parent whom the child has had a stable living environment and if you are unmarried and are not on the birth certificate then you may establish that however custidy would be unlikely unless she is a convict or drug user or proven by cps as an abuser if not you may only be able to get at first supervised visits as well as having to pay child suport then you may motion for unsuper after a peroid of time