Ex husband is using our kids as a tool to get more money

[lil_mamaboo]

I'm a mother of two, Kianna(7) and Kristian (4). I'm the non-custodial parent and my ex husband has sole custody. I don't have parenting time established although it is in process.
Few questions here: 1) Okay, since I don't have court ordered parenting time, can I change that?
2) Is it really the minimum required amount by the state of Oregon $500 per child a month? 3)What does brainwash mean?

[tbyte]

If there are no court orders granting you visitation, then he does not need to grant you visitation.
You will need to go to court to request visitation. He is, I suppose, within his legal right to not allow you to see the children unless you pay some of your back support, but it won't make the court think kindly of him should you bring it up when you request visitation.

[lil_mamaboo]

My back support is a % of what I'm paying now for child support. So say, I pay like $302 per month, 20% of that goes towards back support. So I am paying that back child support.

[Gbyte]

How does he have sole custody, you no visitation and you're ordered to pay child support. When and HOW did that get established?

There needs to be a change of circumstances to change custody typically...

I've never heard of a $500 a month minimum for child support. It is typically calculated by using a formula. Though states vary. Do you have an attorney?

Brainwash:
1. Intensive, forcible indoctrination, usually political or religious, aimed at destroying a person's basic convictions and attitudes and replacing them with an alternative set of fixed beliefs.
2. The application of a concentrated means of persuasion, such as an advertising campaign or repeated suggestion, in order to develop a specific belief or motivation.