Moving out of state for job...

My husband was just offered a promotion out of state with his company. This would mean more money and him working less hours and moving up in the company. We are okay with it, but fear what will happen to my son.

I have a 7 year old son with my ex-boyfriend. I have full custody and his father has "reasonable visitation". He enlisted in the Army National Guard and since he's been back from training camp (June 13) he's only had 1 overnight with him. He has orders to get deployed in 2009 to Afghanistan.

We live in northern Indiana and the new job would be in northern Florida. My question is how hard it would be for me to move with my husband and our daughter and have my son be able to live down there with us. My husband and I are willing to fly our son back to Indiana periodically to see his father and other family. My husband thought that they may award my ex full custody since I would be the one moving. I'm confused. My ex sees his son every so often (NOT every other weekend as written in the custody paperwork). We all get along so I'm not trying to keep my son from him. I just want to know what my rights are as his mother for taking him with us if my husband decides to take the promotion. Any thoughts??

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My thought is this could be very easily, if you discuss it reasonably with the father.
He is going to be absent in 2009 anyway. You agree to pay all the child's travel expenses for visitation. Be considerate of his rights and desires to have an on-going relationship with his son before, during, and after his deployment, and suggest ways you will be willing to help him out.
His major fears are: loss of contact, and loss of control. If you are considerate of these, he may not fight you.