All you men out there

[Littleacres]

I am a mother of two and I say get up and fight, Get a lawyer. I honestly believe a child must be allowed access to ther father and so do most judges, even if it is supervised visitation. Most courts will not deny the child access to the father, even if the father was physically abusive to the mother or the child. I know this because my ex was physically abusive to me, he was charged with assault and I had pictures to prove it and my lawyer told me that the courts or judge would not totally deny the father access to the children. My ex has unsupervised visits, with the condition that he attend couselling and anger management. I have to let him see the children. I also believe that it is in my childrens best interest to see there father, i believe I have no moral right to take my childrens father out of their life, because in the end they would only resent me for doing so. The courts must see that you have you childs, (NOT YOURS) best interest in mind. They must see that you will do what ever it takes. Oh yeah whining or feeling sorry for yourself will not work in your favor. Complaints about how its a womans world, or everything is set up to the womans advantage will not work. It will be seen as whining, it will also make you look like you put your own interests above that of the child.Men out there, take a parenting class before it goes to trial, this will work in your favor, go to counselling to better yourself , this will work in your favor, it shows that your childs interest are being put first, because you want to better yourself for them. It looks even better if this is done by choice rather then forced. Men , stand up, fight, and do not give up. and do not think for one moment that sitting on your butt and being patient will get you any farther ahead, keep your emotions in tact and your wits about you.

[anna]

yes i am with you my son is a single parent and cps took his 4 children from him and to make a long story short they gave them to me only 3 because the oldest is in foster care and my gramd kids were given to me .my son had to move out and he did in dec 07 i got them till may of 08 and they were removed again because they say he was visiting with them too much? i dont under stand the system? my son moved to las vegas and i live in fontana calif and he dont drive and the miles from him to us like 300 miles so i dont understand it so my son has a list of what the cps worker wants from him and the mother left them 9 years ago and cps found her and now she is takeing her side and the cps told the grand kids lawyer that she never liked me and the lawyer told the judge and the judge did not say anything so the cps worker lied about a lot of things to take the kids from me and so did the courts. i have left this in gods hands and iam pushing for me son to do what he needs to do take care god bless

Good advice little acres!!

I will do just that!

[tbyte]

It is, at best mediocre advice, but we have already had that discussion here: All men must read

[loved08]

i agree w/ tbyte...again. this is not the best advice. i'm sorry but if you left your husband/bf (whatever) bc he was pysically abusive to you...do you NOT think that he'll be abusive to your kids next??? if not your an idiot. how dare you not ask for supervised visits for AT LEAST a few months w/ him?! how in the hell are you putting your kids BEST interests first??? you're NOT! your'e putting yours; his; someone's. NOT THEIRS! there's NO WAY i'd let my children be around someone who "loved" me...and HIT ME!! especially over & over; & over. screw that. who's side are you on? your kids or his? if he was a GOOD dad he NEVER NEVER NEVER would've hit you in the first place. && i'd be willing to say that he hit you several times in front of them. how great. *you* need supervised visits too. obviously.