HOW MUCH IS THE LEGAL RANSOM FOR A CHILD???

[Tellurian]

HOW MUCH IS THE LEGAL RANSOM FOR A CHILD THESE DAYS????

Again I dwell on the incredible evil/madness that exists in our society described as “family court”. This system is run by self-serving individuals working for financial gain at the expense of the emotions of the plaintiffs and defendants while using children as pawns. When there are no children involved, almost without fail, the man is given a “raw deal”. The leeches are hoping for an appeal to the decision for financial gain. The only time I see a woman given the “raw deal” is if the man has significant funds to buy off the leeches or if the woman makes more money than the man. If the woman has more money, the leeches simply go after her. For them it’s all about money.

These societal leeches,,, in my opinion, are only a slight step above child slavers. I have interviewed many of them. Some attorneys tell me that they take great delight in holding people’s feet to the fire. Some of them express remorse when describing the state of the system. They say they are aware of the atrocities. They are sorry and then they proceed to work in concert while bemoaning the fact that there is nothing they can do about it.

Our society has the mindset that women and children are to be favored in a family court. Men have received the stigma of being universally bad,,,, especially when children are involved. It appears to me that the system has done a successful campaign against men. After all,,, they do get erections,,, gasp!!!! Generally, men make more money and therefore they have been targeted. I know of many men who have poured hundreds of thousands into this system and still did not get custody or joint custody and often received a worse situation than when they began. I personally know men who had significant wealth and now live in their cars when they are not in jail. They started off with a divorce and then a custody battle. They were given the “raw deal” which they appealed. Having been emotionally tortured and financially drained, many of them lost their jobs because they were unable to function. They are not allowed to see their children if the X wishes to play games. The courts encourage the “squirrelly girly games” for repeat business. It’s an industry. Billions are spent these days on relationship therapies, pharmaceuticals, and resulting physical ailments. I often read about men committing suicide and worse, they kill their own children and/or X to escape the madness.

Women are allowed to have their own time zone and to do as they please to the point of harming children, denying visitations, doing drugs, drinking to excess, whoring around, and making false accusations. Child custody is awarded to crack smoking *****s rather than allow the child to be raised by a fine upstanding father. If the father doesn’t like the treatment he receives, he has the right to hire an attorney who will promise false hope till the man is financially and emotionally drained.

There is no money in resolve. There is no incentive for the attorney to remedy the clients issues in an expeditious manner at the exorbitant rates charged. It is more worth the attorneys while to stir the coals of hatred between parties without regard for the welfare of the children. And they do it very well. Often the plaintiffs and defendants become unwilling participants but they are stuck till the attorneys let them go after making sure that they have milked the situation for all they can. Once an attorney gets its financial anatomy up someone’s bank account,,,,, the anatomy is kept in place as long as financial reward is obtained.

THE UNITED STATES IS NOT FATHER FRIENDLY!!! There are no signs of it changing. In fact, my research shows that it is getting worse. Men here are only one phone call away from jail. It only takes one false accusation from some “****” with her underwear in a jumble to turn a man’s life into total chaos at the hands of societal leeches in need of job justification. He is automatically guilty till he proves himself innocent and even then the false accusation never comes off his record and he is forever saddled with the stigma. The woman is not charged with anything and is set free to do it again. Every time she does, the societal leeches drain the next victim. When the victim happens to be famous, the incident makes the headlines. The media is actually advertising for more business. Just ask one of the Lacrosse players at Duke University or Kobe Bryant. On rare occasions, a man gets custody of a child. To me, this is also a form of advertising. Like the person allowed to win a large stuffed animal at a carnival,,,,,, to me that is a “come on” to the others by giving false hope for further business.

Having had this discussion with several women,,,,,,, they swear up and down that they would never do such a thing. So did the women who have done this to me. Sorry, that’s not a chance I’m willing to take in this country ever again. History books are filled with stories of men and women trying to rationalize or understand each other. In every society there is the “femme fatale” or a “Mad Man”. This society has chosen to make a lucrative business out of that part of nature.

My X tried to murder me three times. There wasn’t enough evidence to have her arrested. There’s no way I would ever agree to meet with her. She has no morals and has promised that she would gladly trade sexual favors to have me killed.

I have not been able to have communication with my daughter for over three years. She was legally kidnapped and taken out of state. On September 18th, 2007 I found out that the man my X chose to live with for 5 years was put in jail on July 22nd, 2006 for 33 counts of child molestation. No one bothered to let me know. After all, I’m just the father. It’s a terrible situation. The leeches are drooling but I won’t feed their evil industry. They are banking on my love for my daughter and hoping that I will jump into their evil vortex. I’ve given them all the money I have and gotten nothing in return. I’ve tried father’s rights groups and only been ripped off. My hands are tied. I must wait. It’s all I can do. As a result of the emotional stress, I once again have chronic uticaria ( hives) I do not sleep well as they itch 24/7. I’m depressed and have given up hope of ever seeing any justice. To me the legal system is run by sentinels holding my daughter hostage at the bidding of an evil witch. Only time will make them go away.

I only wish for a peaceful existence. Therefore, I’ve chosen to leave this country and not suffer further torture/emasculation.

Sincerely,

Tellurian

[Canadian Guy]

I feel your pain, divorce court is one of the few places in the entire world where the tables are turned and there is more prejudice against men.

[judg4]

[the man my X chose to live with for 5 years was put in jail on July 22nd, 2006 for 33 counts of child molestation.]


Many if not most judges will order more supervision or a more active court role if you indeed can show this kind of problem.

[Tellurian]

Greetings and thanks for listening. Judges may order more supervision etc. but where does one begin???? One must hire and attorney and there is the beginning of the financial and emotional rape behind the love of a child. If I hire an attorney then she hires an attorney. The legal charades begn. All she has to do is plead poor and I would be made to pay for her attorney as well.

As long as there is financial gain in this aspect of the judicial system,,, it will remain a travesty at the children's expense. There is no money in resolve and therefore the pendulum will never rest in the middle. It's the children that suffer the most and we are seeing a generation of results surfacing in our society. Most are overweight and apathetic. They seek out gang comoradery to fill the void. On and on.

There is no immediate hope. I must wait till my daughter is in her teens and then if I'm lucky,,,, she won't be too poisened against me.

Tellurian

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[tbyte]

Enough of this, LittleAcres.
Stop the duplicate posting, and stop schilling books.

[Tellurian]

As I mentioned,,,, when you bleed,,,, the leaches come running,,,,, offering false hopes and promises with only one thing in mind,,,,,,, draining you even further.

Tellurian

[tbyte]

Tellurian,
It is advisable to hire an attorney, but it is not necessary. Our legal system was never intended to deny justice to those without wealth.
You can research the laws on your own. The laws of your State are probably available online.
You can write motions yourself. Chances are you have copies of previous motions and affidavits, and can use them as templates and guides.
She it not entitled to attorney fees simply because she is poor. Were you to file spurious case, she might be granted legal fees. Or if you were wealthy enough to afford an expensive attorney the courts might require you to contribut towards her costs. But if you are not wealthy, and do not hire an attorney yourself, I doubt the court would make you pay for an attorney for her.

[Living Lightly]

Believe it or not, I happen to be one of the rare women who has gotten a "raw deal" because personal integrity is costly.
I raised my (our) son to believe that being a good and decent person was ALWAYS its own reward. His father, however, repaid my desire to "play fair" for our child's sake, by requesting and being awarded 2 child support reductions WHILE he elected to create 4 more children he claimed he could barely provide for. Abandoning our son emotionally as well as financially for over 2 years, and after my finally catching-up to him with NO help from C.S.E., at my one-and-only request for legal intervention in 10 years, he showed-up in court for his $5-some-odd-thousand support arrearage hearing with a $280.00 per hour lawyer and a change of custody motion in hand; Our son and I sat alone and I represented myself through the court trustee. He was, yet again, rewarded by a reduction in already marginal child support, so that I would share "equitably" in our sons' travel expenses. Oh, and has not yet, since being ordered to do so in 2005, reimbursed me for his share of over $1,000 in dental and optical bills.
Last year our son elected to try living with his dad. I did not fight because it was his desire. Now, a year later, he is returning to me ill, 14 lbs. thinner on his already narrow frame, and exhausted from the chaos. I, in an effort to reassure him that his younger half-siblings would not suffer an injustice on his departure from a home where there is simply not enough of anything, asked that there be no further child support assessed since he is now 16. I'm just THAT grateful to have him home where he's safe and loved.
I NEVER *****d, or engaged in behavior harmful to my child or my husband before or after the divorce. Drank? Occasionally, usually to my lack of understanding of how my love for my son had been used as a weapon against me by my ex. Just so you know, responsible, divorced moms and ex-wives who play fair DO EXIST!!!

[tbyte]

I don't think it is rare for anyone to get a raw deal in family court.
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