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If a woman AND her husband decide that the woman will stay at home, then she is an equal partner in his earnings. However, if they later get divorced then neither one can realistically expect their lifestyles not to change. The expense of maintaining two separate households is greater than that of a unified household, and the woman can no longer expect to stay at home unemployed. She has a responsibility to financially support her children, just as the father does.
If she does not, and simply lives off of funds which are meant to support the children, then yes, she is a lazy freeloader.

[Living Lightly]

I agree with your thoughts. Read what I wrote to "Legal Ransom for a Child"... We ARE out here! An old African proverb, " It takes a community to raise a child" CHILDREN DESERVE ALL THE ( HEALTHY!! ) LOVE THEY CAN GET!!!

[Littleacres]

Dont' you think that if it is possible for one parent to remain athome, mother or father even though seperated or divorced it would be good for the child at least until they are going to school. Or would it be best for a babysitter to raise your child during the day, i believe that it is always best for one of the parents if possible to be able to be in the childs life on a full time daily basis, it bothers me that those who pay child support would rather that money go to a babysitter, then using that money to make it possible for the parent to stay home

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It amazes me that some women are selfish enough to want to live off of money intended to support their children.

[Littleacres]

so in your opinion you would rather that money go to a babysitter, then to the mother or father of the children so that a parent can stay home with the child. Assuming that the parent is a a good parent Or in your opinion is it not in the child best interest to have a stay at home parent. Do you feel it is not important.?

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I feel that both parents have an obligation to care for their child, and both parents have an obligation to support their child.

[Christina]

I have never kept my ex from his kids, untill now. But he is running around like a phchotic freak, and he is very abusive. My kids are afraid of him and so am I.

There are ****s of both genders. I fail to see how vast generalizations serve any purpose here.

The 2 female cousins of mine with children who divorced ceded physical custody of their children and the marital home. So I know of at least 2 fathers who have not had their parental rights wrenched from them.

My sister-in-law's ex abandoned her and their toddler daughter, leaving not forwarding address. She put him through law school, gave over half of her paycheck to his business, signed whatever papers he claimed needed signing, and in return she was left with $150,000 in debt and had to file for bankruptcy. His child support payments are only $10 (ten) per month, due to mental illness. I'm not sure how you'd call this fleecing him.

Personally, since I had my husband tossed out for domestic violence, the closest to $ I've seen from him is a DVD and stuffed animal he gave our daughter. And no, the house isn't his - we were living rent free in grandparent's house, so no, I didn't take a house he'd worked hard for away from him.

My current legal representative is loathe to even ask for supervised visitation, because my husband is not a substance abuser, and was sober when he abused of me in front of our child. (This includes putting his arms around my neck to strangle me while our child was in my arms on more than one occasion.) CPS has filed a report on my husband indicating "inadequate guardianship", a form of neglect in our state. (The judge who I initially petitioned for an order of protection contacted CPS in addition to extending the stay-away order to our daughter.)

Personally, it would make my life more convenient if our daughter was off with her dad more, unsupervise - I'd have time to clean the bathroom more thoroughly and shampoo the carpets, not to mention refinish some furniture. But I really don't trust him anymore. He's the sort of guy who defines "personal property" as all of our daughter's baby pictures and videos, and his paranoia extends to not giving out any personal information (other than a P.O. Box) and password protecting a jointly owned computer to the point that I need to hire a security specialist.

I hate to see all of lumped into the same category.

[PapaJohn]

Originally Posted by Littleacres

Are you kidding, do you live in a box or someting, I don't mean to be rude, but I have come across a few men in my lifetime,including my ex that feel that if a women chooses to be stay at home mom, then she should also accept the fact that there is no money for her. and bringing in no money means no choices, no decisions..etc. I don't know what kind of perfect world you come from but it must be nice to avert your eyes from the rest of society. and no it is not a straw man arguement. That would belike me asking you have you seen any posts from women who agree that they are money hungry, well have you????? and you guys want me to accept the reality of the custody battle for fathers ( which I already do)

I don't know a single male who believes this ridiculous comment. We aren't living in the 50's anymore you know. Men have indeed evolved.

[PapaJohn]

Originally Posted by Littleacres

Dont' you think that if it is possible for one parent to remain athome, mother or father even though seperated or divorced it would be good for the child at least until they are going to school. Or would it be best for a babysitter to raise your child during the day, i believe that it is always best for one of the parents if possible to be able to be in the childs life on a full time daily basis, it bothers me that those who pay child support would rather that money go to a babysitter, then using that money to make it possible for the parent to stay home

LMFAO... yeah right... perfect example here is my cousin. His ex wife, while they were married started up an internet romance with some guy and was always on the net playing cybersex games with the guy when she should have been taking care of the kids. When the guy she was wooing finally moved to their town she had several real life sexual encounters with the guy and then left the husband and took their three kids. She and her new cyber lover sat on their fat asses collecting welfare and support in the amount of $850 every two weeks as she claimed she needed to stay home to care for the two youngest kids. Welfare nor the courts said screw all about her freeloading ways. Yet when she got tired of the kids because she wanted to move with her new lover back to where he came from and the lover was also tired of the kids she went to court and gave custody of the kids back to the husband/father. He had to quit his job to take care of the two youngest and petitioned the court for support. The court denied his petition because the mother was still on welfare and the court told him he wouldn't have needed support if he didn't quit his job. He was also turned down for welfare because they told him he was fully capable of working and that he was just using his kids as an excuse for not working... Hmmm the mother sat on her ass for a year and a half and welfare LET her, the court forced the father to pay EXTRA support because the mother was on welfare, yet neither welfare nor the court will allow the father to do the same as the mother did.... Uh huh.....
real fair huh....