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[angel1964]

TBYTE- you are just the best person to give advice arent you? NOT. People need support and help and they come here to get it. You people are unbelievable. Your advice is not the greatest from what I have read.

[snukums]

I agree that there are far to many woman that treat the fathers unfair etc. BUT my son is almost 8 he has post traumatic stress, adhd and has overcome depression! His biological father and i split in 2006 he played head games-- telling MY son that he would be there to bring him to the movies and we would sit outside and wait and he would never show.. he wouldn't answer the little ones calls Aug 4, of 2006 is the last time he has seen or heard from him.. He started paying support last month because of dor finding him! so rights? What right does he have? I raise him and I support him.. I am engaged to his daddy! There is a difference between a sperm donor and a daddy!!! People need to see that there are also plenty of woman that are like my ex also! Moral of the story just because you make a baby DOES NOT make them yours! They are not posessions they are a privelage

The family courts are not biased to mothers and sometimes these days bend over backwards to try to appear equal for fathers.

Papajohn & Angel1964, is right!!!!! my 24 years ago exgirlfriend I owe her something. I owe her nothing. I would of been a better dad than any of her every 4 years shift boyfriend then leaves her and my daughter seeing her with different guy. While I was going to school and work and paying child support, all those years used my family for her to party here and there while i'm being deprived from my daughter even seeing her over my mothers house for weekends from time to time. Up to this day (im 41 and done with child support, daughter 21) she graduate from college,her mom has the nerve to tell me on email that my daughter did'nt wanted me there at her graduation and disrespected her (my daughter) wishes for me not to be there? Now, this is all coming from the mom but not from my daughter, I missed her high school one and had intention to go on this one...Something that I want to rmembrance I was there for/and my daughter having a thought of me being there as well wether if she wants me there or ...>>> not <<< accdg. to her mom. I've posted on my website that "she is 21 and an adult, she has her own opinions and decisions and I said that it has to come from my daughter" (then I would understand sad to say bec. she was brainwashed), I/her mom broke up 19 years ago! even though I get a chance to see her until she was about 10 to 11 years old over my moms off and on weekends then it her visitation started to stop and manipulation/controlling thus my mom can't bare anymore, told her off one day.... Well anway, I did show up, bought my daughter a dozens of flowers and as she came up to me and my brother, she had a smile without no doubt everything negatively was said on the email was visa-verse, I've posted on my website is that. Angel stated "She is the most malicious person I have ever met" gives me flashback and still goin on even though she has a family now with two other kids from different other fathers! anyway I was glad to show up than regreting not to! It fullfilled the emptiness! now, I must go on with my life......to Dad's out there...do your best and good luck!

[tbyte]

Originally Posted by Unregistered

The family courts are not biased to mothers and sometimes these days bend over backwards to try to appear equal for fathers.

You funny!

[angel1964]

Unregistered. I am so glad you did that and went. Some woman are just nasty loney withces. All they care about is themselves and they prove it over and over by their actions. My boyfriends ex is just that. Bitter and loney. Oh she has the occasional visit from all of her cops lays but thats it. Your daughter needs you in her life. Who cares what her mother says. My boyfirneds ex does the same thing. His son is 11 and he is very brainwashed. To the point of mental child abuse. The child lies and keeps secrets from his father. Its terrible.

[momintrouble]

papajohn, i can understnd your frustration and even though you and i havent seen eye to eye in the past, i have to say something. I think that the reason most of the posts are "slamming" the dad is because women tend to go to the internet or help/support or to look for information more than men. there are alot of men on here but i think if you were to see the ratio of men:women, there would be more women. that would explain for the number of posts from them.
I went through the members list of people that have posted more than once(it took a while too) and there were a greater number of women.( i omly counted the ones that i was sure of the gender)
I understand your frustration and wish that my x cared for his kids as much as you do. you are very caring and i have really listened to your advise. thanks.
you too tbyte!

wow .. a bit hostile are we? I cant speak for anyone else, but my children's so called father was ready to sell them out just to get out of paying support. Since he hadnt provided for them financially all through the marriage he figured why start now? i realize it isnt how much money you have that makes a parent a good parent but what kind of example are you setting to your child if you keep sending them moms way everytime they need something? guys need to step up and realize that being there for them consists of love, understanding, respect, patience and of course being able to provide financially for them if they should need clothing, food, shelter etc. child support is a means meant for the care and well being of your child and regardless of how you feel about your ex, complaining about financially contributing to your child's care should affect what role you play in their lives. you both made the child you both need to financially provide for them whether the 2 parents stay together or not.

Yikes!

Cooperation folks IMHO! Even if it is painful dealing with an ex.

It is the kids' interests that govern.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Well I'm sick and tired of sorry men laying down with women, helping produce the child, and then taking off as fast as they can to live their lives while the woman is left to care completly on her own for the child, with absolutely no help whatsoever, and the child is left behind wondering what they did to make their father not be around. Men need to step up and take responsibility instead of making children and still BEING children.

I already addressed those types of fathers in my initial post.
And the exact same can be said for women as well. It isn't just a man's issue you know, there are just as many women out there who are like this. There was actually just an article in last week's Macleans Magazine about these women.