absent father

I have not seen my daughters father since I was pregnant. We were never married. I am just wondering what rights he has to my baby. I never put his name on the birth certificate. I am just afraid that maybe one day he will change his mind and want to be a part of her life and I do not want that at all. When does he lose his right to be her father?

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I am just afraid that maybe one day he will change his mind and want to be a part of her life and I do not want that at all.

Tough luck for you. It is his decision, and I hope he becomes an active part of his child's life.

It is true that he legally would have some rights to see the child.

Originally Posted by Unregistered

Tough luck for you. It is his decision, and I hope he becomes an active part of his child's life.

If he hasn't been there, he doesn't deserve a right to see the child. He chose to do what was right for him and only him, with no regard to the mother or the child. The child probably has a happy life with a wonderful mother. As a mother, sometimes it is your responsibility to do whatever is best for your child and his or her happiness, and if you believe this man would be a bad influence in your child's life, you should fight to keep him as far away as possible. Every year that passes with this deadbeat "father" ignoring his responsibilities gives you more of a chance of keeping sole custody of the child that YOU have raised alone. The fact that he has behaved in a completely immoral, irresponsible manner certainly works in your favor.

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Wow! What internet browser are you using? Does it have some special, cool new feature that allows you to read BETWEEN the lines? Because all I can see in the original post is this:

Originally Posted by Unregistered

I have not seen my daughters father since I was pregnant. We were never married. I am just wondering what rights he has to my baby. I never put his name on the birth certificate. I am just afraid that maybe one day he will change his mind and want to be a part of her life and I do not want that at all. When does he lose his right to be her father?

...which doesn't say anything about WHY the father hasn't seen the child, or what kind of a person he is.
Can you provide a link for the rest of us to download the same browser you are using?
Thanks!

If he comes around and wants to see his child, I say let him even though it may be hard. I went through the same thing, my son is almost 19. I figured the best thing I could do is not have my son resent me or blame me for "Keeping his father away". His father would come around every few years, disappoint, I'd mend the broken heart until it was broken again. I never disrespected his father (at least not to him). Now that he's older he says he has no desire to see him. He doesn't blame me and we are very close. A happy ending. It was actually a blessing that he was a dead beat dad, my son wouldn't be who he is with his influence.

Originally Posted by tbyte

Wow! What internet browser are you using? Does it have some special, cool new feature that allows you to read BETWEEN the lines? Because all I can see in the original post is this:

...which doesn't say anything about WHY the father hasn't seen the child, or what kind of a person he is.
Can you provide a link for the rest of us to download the same browser you are using?
Thanks!

She obviously has reason to believe that his presence would not benefit the child or she would not be here asking when he could lose his rights...besides, any child who has been abandoned by his/her father is probably much better off without him. I would bet that the original poster would agree. The chances that he has not been involved simply because he's been legitimately "busy" are slim to none. You don't abandon a child you have created for any reason other than your own selfishness, no matter what absent fathers claim.

It takes much more than the ability to have sex to truly be someone's father. Almost every man alive can have sex, but that does not automatically mean they would be a good influence on a child...perhaps you should keep your comments to yourself next time. She came here for advice and support and comments like yours are a complete waste of space.

If I were the original poster, I would hire a good lawyer asap. If he is unfit as a parent, this can sometimes be proven rather easily. It may also help to do a background check on this loser, just to make sure you know exactly what you're up against. I may not know exactly why you don't seem to want this man in your child's life, but I do know that you have a God-given right to protect your child and his/her happiness and well-being no matter what the circumstances.

[Postman]

considering my fencing w/ 2bit one might find the following odd.

There are 6 unregistered posts.

But you have the nerve to make this statement, from a sniper's nest you gutless wonder!

...perhaps you should keep your comments to yourself next time. She came here for advice and support and comments like yours are a complete waste of space.

Come on out, and after 2bit gets through with your yellow striped worthless skin, I'll open a family size, industrial strength CAN OF WHOOP A$$. I guess there needs to a org formed.... M.O.B. Mothers of Bastards

[Postman]

How bout

M.O.B.B.

Mothers of Bastard Babies

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Frankly, I don't see this forum lasting long if they continue to let unregistered users post jack-ass comments like that.