PA Adoption Question

I'm in the adoption process in the state of PA. My ex wants her husband to adopt my children. I have received the consent agreement, but I'm afraid that I will be giving up all of my rights, even if the adoption doesn't go through. Does anyone know what happens to my rights if the adoption falls through?

If it doesn't take place then nothing has changed.

If it does, then yes - you lose ALL your rights to your chidlren: visitation and child support. Are your chidlren old enough to talk with them about how they feel about it? Will they be able to know that you still care about them?

hello my question is, is there anything i can do about an adoption that took place in 1986 that was kept secret from me? i only recently find out i had a son, actually it was in nov. 2008 the birth mother came to me and told me about him.she falsified the adoption records by having another man sign them as the father.it was in illinois and they do have the sealed adoption law but i need to know under the cercumstances,if i can get around the law and have the records unsealed please advise